It seems to me that you, Tinkerbell, are underestimating the role that spanking can have in dealing with guilt feelings. Obviously it did not work out in your specific experience. Spanking is not a cure-all for every situation. However, it can play exactly the role ascribed to it in the original article.
Many years ago, before my husband and I had established a taken in hand relationship, I was in a similar situation. I had fallen into a online conversation with a man in which we were writing about sexual fantasies with each other. It had moved so gradually from mild flirting to this point that it took me by surprise. Suddenly one day I realized that this was a virtual affair and not something I wanted to be doing.
I found my guilt feelings difficult to deal with and was greatly helped by receiving a spanking. This was my first real punishment spanking and important in my eventual realization that I wanted to be taken in hand.
So, based on my experience, it seems quite possible to me that the original poster can look forward to the new beginning he describes. I too wish him all the best.
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