Well now I am in my 40s and she in her 30s a change of demeanor seems to have occurred. Today I was at work and angry with her over the usual power struggles between us. I never try to be controlling, I try to value her freedom of choice and ideas. But lately things have become bizarre to say the least. However, being at work and being upset, I realized that I would be no good to my boss. I asked for the afternoon off. My intent was too come home and speak to my wife and try to gain a mutual understanding. When I arrived home she was in our room and on the internet. Upon seeing me she quickly shut town the computer and we began to address what was bothering me.
Suddenly all the hurt and anger from her infidelity seemed to creep out in our conversation. Don’t get me wrong – I by no means used the past to make her feel bad or guilty. But I started to see the hurt in her eyes. I walked out on the balcony to have a smoke.